KUDOS TO THE MEN!!!
By Abdullahi Tony Dania
"WHAT HAVE YOU EVER DONE FOR ME !!! THAT PEENUTS!! OR THE RAG-TAG CAR!!! GO SEE WHAT YOUR MATES ARE DOING FOR THEIR WIFES!!"
Who said this? To whom? When? What led to it? How was it said? Is it the truth? And what was the man's reaction?
MEN!! It is extremely difficult if not impossible to see a lady that can be 75% satisfied by whatever her man has done or is doing or willl do for her.
In Liberia, there was a very rich Nigerian man who had over 60% of all the money in a particular commercial bank in Monrovia. To impress his beautiful wife, he went on an expensive yacht cruise with the MD of the Bank and his pretty wife of over 25 years. There was an "accident," he was said to have tripped from the yacht.
The man fell into the water, drowned, and died. Guess what? The MD of the Bank and the WIFE of the deceased are "in" a love relationship, which became obvious within 2 months after the death of the deceased!! To date, the family of the deceased could not do anything about the wealth and estate of their late son/brother.
What about the extremely rich Nigerian banker who died in a chopper accident. His biological father is shamelessly fighting with his grand daughter (the deceased's daughter) over inheritance.
95% of ladies or wives always want more of almost everything and want it better!!! Almost all the time, it is the man that died 1st, and even at death, he still feels he has not done enough for the wife. Can the MEN take deliberate steps to reduce their self-imposed labour and stress !!!
As an experienced lawyer, I know that about 75% of wills were written by men, leaving substantial parts of their estate to their wives and children. So, it is believed that it is the husbands that must die first, abi? Even the men seemed to have "resigned to this faith" too. Yes, even you had the same belief!! Eraze it from your mind now!!
Let's start changing the narratives, please. "LOVE YOUR WIFE AND YOUR CHILDREN, BE REALISTIC ALL THE TIME, DO NOT OVER-DO OR GO BEYOND YOUR LIMITS TO SATISFY OR IMPRESS YOUR WIFE !!! SHE WILL EXPRESS MOMENTARY APPRECIATION, BUT IN A DAY OR TWO, SHE WANTS MORE, WANTS THEM BETTER!!
MEN, GIVE YOURSELF THE 1ST AND THE BEST OF EVERYTHING, BUT LOVE AND TAKE CARE OF YOUR WIFE AND CHILDREN, AS MUCH AS YOU CAN TOO. DON'T GO BORROWING TO THROW A BIG PARTY FOR BIRTHDAYS, ANNIVERSARIES, etc.
I once called in on a redeo program that was discussing inheritance.The presenters talked only about what happened to the woman after the death of his husband. They were shocked and were silent for over 4 minutes when I asked if it was destined and naturally presumed that a man must die first and leave inheritance to his wife !!
When you complain to a male or female friend, the response and advice you get from them are almost the same:
"You have to bear, you know, women are like that, even my own wife is like that too. You know say we, women, na mouth we get, na so we be O, I beg no vex. That is why you are a man, be calm, pls always take care of your wife, no matter the situation, and you must consider the children too."
And the Man bears, but gradually suffers internal psychological and depressive syndrome, silently, which, coupled with other known and unknown internal ailments, would ultimately fast-track the demise of the Man.
And you will hear:
"Hey !! It is a lie!! IT CANNOT BE!! MR. OKOKORIKO IS DEAD!! NA WA O!! THERE IS NOTHING IN THIS LIFE !! ALL IS VANITY!! Oh my God! OKOKORIKO IS GONE TO JOIN HIS ANCESTORS!! I saw him just yesterday looking hail n hearty!! I tell am make eno go village O!! See me, I am a widow now, my husband is gone, and I was always telling him to take life easy O!! Now see me, who will take care of me and the children now !"
Recently, a Lady, in a foreign country, was arrested at the funeral of her husband, for allegedly been the mastermind of the death of her husband. Yes!!
"Death" is death, irrespective of how it came, right? Women, if you do not want early death for your husband, then learn to be satisfied with what your husband can do for you and what he has done for you!!
Be very prudent and moderate. Always encourage your husband to relax, take life easy and to enjoy himself, and minimise the pressures you put on your husband !! Stop comparing him to other men who bought big cars and houses for their wives!!
There is a young widow who knew that her husband was a hardened armed robber, but she was enjoying the blood wealth and booties, even though they were always on the run.
The man was eventually killed in a notorious armed robbery operation at a bank in the East. The robbery incident was captured in a ctcv camera, and the video clips went virile, wherein a courageous armed mobile policeman killed some armed robbers at a bank before he was killed.
The widow "connered" all the wealth of her deceased husband, lived "big," for a short while, but she is "down and flat" now.
It is better to be late in starting a new life than to be afterwards addressed as "the late" after your demised.
Lean from this my words of wisdom, do not hate your wife or love her less, NO SIR. BUT DO NOT OVER DO OR USE SELF-HELP TO INCREASE YOUR STREESS.
Spread this message, forward it repeatedly until it gets to every man and lady. pls.
Men should love their wives, but remove the belief and mentality from your mind and head that they were destined to die first before your wives. No, sir!!! Ask your pastor or Imam or Woolley or High Prist or "Baba!!
Please, I come in peace O !!
Happy Easter to you all. All ye MEN, women, wives, husbands, lovers, mistresses, boy and girlfriends, fiance and fiancées, God shall bless you all and grant you long lives in good health and wellbeing, Insha Allah.
CHIEF ABDULLAI TONY DANIA ESQ
LLB, BL, LL.M, NP FRN
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